★Positive Vibes

Observing Evolution
By Madisyn Taylor

Allowing Others to Walk Their Paths

It is important to allow others to walk their own path because it is just that, their own path.




Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with the wisdom we have acquired through experience. Yet all human beings have the right to carve their own paths without being unduly influenced by outside interference. To deny them that right is to deny them enlightenment  as true insight cannot be conveyed in lectures. Rather each individual must earn independence and illumination by making decisions and reflecting upon the consequences of each reflecting upon the consequences of each choice. In allowing others to walk their paths freely, you honor their right to express their humanity in whatever way they see fit. Though you may not agree with or identify with their choices, understand each person must learn in their own way and at their own pace.

The events and circumstances that shape our lives are unique because each of us is unique. What touches one person deeply may do nothing more than irritate or confound another. Therefore, each of us is drawn to different paths - that will have the most profound effects on our personal evolution. If you feel compelled to intervene when watching another human being make their way slowly and painfully down a difficult path, try to empathize with their need to grow autonomous and make their own way in the world. Should this person ask for your aid, give it freely.

Overactive egos can convince us that ours is the one true path or awaken a craving for control within us. But each person is entitled to seek out their path leading from the darkness into the light.




Staying Afloat

Riding the wave of life

While riding the wave of life you must also practice stillness

so you can flow with, rather than resist the wave's motion.



Our lives are continually in motion, buoyed by the wave that it the universe's flow. As the wave rises and falls, we are carried forward, through life's high and low points. The universe's flow may take us to a place in life where we would rather not be. As tempting as it can be to fight the direction and size of this wave that propels us, riding the wave is intended to make life easier. When you ride the wave your life can evolve naturally and with minimal effort. Riding the wave, however, is not a passive experience. It is an active process that requires you to be attentive, centered, and awake.

If you try to move against the wave, you may feel as if you are trapped by it and have no control over your destiny. When you reach a low point while riding the wave and find your feet touching bottom, remember to stay standing so that you can leap forward along with the wave the next time it rises. Do you get what I'm saying?

When you ride the wave, you are carried by it and your head can "stay above water" as you go wherever it takes you. It can be difficult to trust the universe and let go of the urge to fight life's flow, and you may find it easier to ride the wave if you can stay calm and relaxed. Riding the wave will always take you where you need to go.



Conditioned Response

Reactions to Life Events

Our past experiences can and do influence

our emotional reactions and responses to present events.



Our experiences color everything. The event of the past can have a profound effect on how we see our lives now and what we choose to believe about our world. Our past experience can also influence our emotional reactions and responses to current events. Each of us reacts to stimulus based on what we have learned in life. There is no right or wrong to it; it is simply the result of past experience. Later, when our strong feelings have passed, we may be surprised at our reactions. Yet when we face a similar situation, our reaction may be the same.

Between stimulus and reaction exists a fleeting moment of thought. Often, that thought is based on something that has happened to you in the past. You can minimize the intensity of your reactions by identifying the momentary thought that inspires your reaction. Then the next time, replace that thought with a more positive one.

Modifying your reactions by modifying your thoughts is difficult, but it can help you to see and experience formerly unpleasant situations in a whole new light. It allows you to stop reacting unconsciously. As times passes your negative thoughts may lose strength, leaving only your positive thoughts to inform your healthy reactions.




Discovering True Selves

Soul Seeing


The soul is the purest expression of an individual

and is not bound by physical forms or fleeting emotions.



When we want to see deeply into the heart and mind of another person, soul seeing, also called soul gazing allows us to see their soul. The soul is the purest expression of an individual and is not bound by physical forms of fleeting emotions. Soul seeing can show you a person's inner beauty that you might otherwise miss. Soul seeing is a way to see past shapes, sizes, attitudes, and behavior to see the real individual that lies beneath the surface. It allows you to see the true essence of another person, the radiance of their being, and their spirit within.

So little of who each of us is can be captured by our appearance or personality. The thoughts, fears, desires, and longings that are part of what makes us whole are not always written across our faces. The unique beauty that resides within is longing to be revealed to another who is willing to see.



Warning Signs - Paying Attention to Red Flags

Red flags often come in the form of feelings urging us to pause for a moment,
listen to our intuition, and reconsider.



Just as the universe wants to provide for our needs, it also seeks to protect us from dangerous situations, destructive relationships, and even minor inconveniences. Frequently in our lives, perhaps everyday, we encounter psychic red flags warning us of potential problems or accidents. We may not always recognize the signs. however, more often than not we may choose to ignore our intuition when it tells us that "something just isn't right."

Red flags often come in the form of feelings urging us to pause for a moment, listen to our intuition, and reconsider. We may even experience a 'bad" feeling in our bellies. This is the red flag letting us know that there may be a problem. For example, we may meet someone who outwardly seems perfect. The are intelligent, attractive and charming. Yet, for some reason, being around them makes us feel uneasy. Any interactions we have with then are awkward and leave us feeling like there is something "off" about the situation. This is not necessarily a bad person. But for some reason, the universe is directing us away from them. Red flags are intended with our best interest at heart.

We may try to ignore the red flags waving our way, dismissing our unease as illogical. Yet it is always in our best interest to pay attention to them. Pay attention to any red flags that pop up. The universe is always looking out for you.



Light Of The Party - Confidence In Social Situations
If you feel shy or awkward in social situations,
know that many others are probably feeling the same way too.




If you've ever been to a social gathering where you've felt awkward and uncomfortable chances are you are not alone. While social gatherings can be very enjoyable, especially when we are surrounded by people whose company we enjoy, there are social events that we attend where we sometimes find ourselves wishing we were someplace else. Such occasions can sometimes be the cause of much anxiety and self-consciousness. We may feel like everyone else is having a good time except for us. Yet the truth is that everyone has felt shy and awkward on occasion.

The next time there is a social event you feel nervous about attending,  you may want to try this exercise: Spend some time with your eyes closed and breathe deeply. When you feel ready, create your own zone of comfort by visualizing yourself surrounded in a warm white light that is protective yet accepting of others. Imagine people at the event being drawn to you because of the open and warm feelings that you are radiating. Smile and greet people warmly. When you radiate acceptance, openness and receptivity, people can't help but respond to you in kind.

The next time you attend a social gathering, invite people to join you in your zone of comfort that you have so lovingly and intentionally created. Let yourself enjoy being encircled in the warmth of their friendships.



Personal Tales - Writing Your Story


We all have a story to tell

whether we publish it or keep it for just ourselves or family;

allow yourself to be heard.




Everyone at one time or another has wanted to express his or her story. Writing a memoir to read privately, share with family or friends, or publish is an emotionally satisfying way to gain perspective on your experiences while sharing your unique voice.

We've all experienced feelings and events in our lives that we are longing to write down. Giving in to that urge can give you an outlet for purging any frustration, anxiety, or long dormant feelings.

Research has shown that writing a personal narrative filled with feelings and perceptions can create long term health benefits. As you write, remember to have compassion for yourself particularly when writing about traumatic events. More importantly, you are expressing yourself in a permanent way, giving a gift to yourself, and letting your voice be heard.



Forward Momentum - The Train as Metaphor

People can be like trains,

Making unscheduled stops along the way,

but inevitably always arriving at our proper destination.




Our lives stretch out in front and behind us like train tracks, and we are the train, its passengers, and the engineer. The way you choose to live your life and the goals you are working toward are the route and the destinations you have chosen.

Like a passenger riding a train you have an option to get on or off, find new routes, pick new places to visit, or just stop and enjoy the view for awhile.

Perhaps you like to move quickly through life as if you were an express train.

If you have examined the tracks of your life and are feeling unsatisfied, you may want to explore changes you could make to find a more fulfilling path to follow. Perhaps you'd like to slow down a little bit more and take a windier path rather than just traveling down the straight and narrow.

Changing your route can sometimes give you a chance to "get on the right track." You may even discover that the something new you've been waiting for is just around the bend.



Begin With Yourself - The Journey Of Finding A Relationship

The journey of finding a relationship is just that

a journey that uses all of our life wisdom and experiences.




Before we embark upon the journey of finding the relationship that is right for us, we may want to take the opportunity to refine our concept of who we are and our ideas of what we want from life. That way, we are clearer on the kind of person we want to attract into our lives. Part of the journey of finding a mate is learning how to become our own mate. When we can learn to meet our needs without relying on someone else to complete us, we don't have to form relationships from the space of needing our emptiness to be filled.

If you want to be in a relationship, but haven't found the right one for you, remember that the universe works in perfect order and, therefore, right now your life is unfolding exactly as it is meant to be.

Follow your heart listen to your inner voice, continue to become your own soul mate and stay open to love. the journey of finding the right relationship begins with being in the right relationship with yourself.

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